1. Look at your ratio of lean body composition, or muscle mass, rather than your weight. Starting in our 30's we tend to lose 5 lbs. of muscle and gain 10 lbs. of fat each decade. We also lose 1-2 lbs. of bone density. Since muscle weighs more than fat, your body weight can deceive you into thinking that you are "back to normal" when in fact you are more fat than before. Or, conversely, some women who exercise during pregnancy and strengthen muscles may find that they are heavier but have less body fat. I say, throw the scale away and go by how your clothes fit.

2. Breastfeeding often leads to initial weight loss, yet many women cannot lose the last 5-15 pounds while breastfeeding because the body utilizes fat to produce breast milk. Be patient. Breastfeeding offers many benefits to mom and baby that far outweigh the extra pounds.

3. Genetics is probably the greatest factor that affects how quickly one can wear pre-pregnancy clothes. (Have a look at your mom and any of your sisters.)

4. Some women never recover the waistline completely. Some say their hips widened. Your body may never be exactly the same. Why should it? Look at the miraculous transformation it has accomplished! Appreciate your womanly shape.

5. If your want to help things along, exercise will improve your mood, self- esteem and gradually, your shape. I think each new mom should try to walk outdoors with her baby each day. Fresh air and sunshine are great. Moms also need a video for rainy days or days when baby is sick and cannot go to the health club. I recommend the Yoga Rhythms video. It is an aerobic and toning workout that hits the muscle groups new moms are most concerned about. You can order it from College Video at 1-800-433-6769.